Understanding the Impact 

Survivors of childhood sexual abuse experience an array of overwhelming and intense feelings. These may include feelings of fear, guilt, and shame. Abusers have been known to tell children that it is their fault that they are abused, shifting the blame away from themselves, where it belongs, and placing it on the child. Along with this, abusers may threaten or bribe the child into not speaking, convincing the child that he or she will never be believed. The reaction of a survivor’s friends and family to the disclosure of the abuse also has the potential to trigger immense feelings of guilt, shame, and distrust, particularly if they deny that the abuse is taking place, or choose to ignore it.

While each individual’s experiences and reactions are unique, there are some responses to child sexual abuse that are common to many survivors:

• Low self-esteem or self-hatred

• • • Survivors may suffer from depression. (See below)

• Guilt, shame, and blame

• • • Survivors may feel guilt or shame because they made no direct attempt to stop the abuse or because they experienced physical pleasure.

• Sleep disturbances / disorders

• • • Survivors may have trouble sleeping because of the trauma, because of anxiety, or because they were sexually abused in their own beds.

• Lack of trust in anyone

• • • Many survivors were betrayed by people they depended on for care and love (family, teachers etc.), learning to trust can be extremely difficult under these circumstances.
    • 93% of victims under the age of 18 know their attacker.

• Revictimization

• • • Many survivors as adults find themselves in abusive or dangerous situations or relationships.
    • Woman who were sexually assaulted before the age of 18 are twice as likely to report being raped as adults.

• Flashbacks

• • • Many survivors re-experience the sexual abuse as if it is occurring at that moment, usually accompanied by visual images of the abuse. These flashes of images are often triggered by an event, action, or smell.

• Dissociation

• • • Many survivors go through a process where the mind distances itself from the experience because it is too much for the psyche to process at the time. This loss of connection with thoughts, memories, feelings, actions, or sense of identity, is a coping mechanism and may affect aspects of a survivor’s functioning.

• Sexuality / Intimacy

• • • Many survivors have to deal with the fact that their first sexual encounter was a result of abuse. Such memories may interfere with the survivor’s ability to engage in sexual relationships, which may bring about feelings of fright, frustration, or shame.

Adult survivors of childhood sexual abuse often adopt coping mechanisms (or survival strategies) to guards against feelings of terror and helplessness that they may have felt as a child. These past feelings can still have influence over the life and present behavior of an adult survivor. Here are some common coping mechanisms:

• Grieving / Mourning

• • • A survivor may feel a deep sadness, jealousy, anger, or longing for childhood experiences, trust, innocence, relationships with family members that they never had.

• Alcohol or drug abuse

• • • The abuse of substances can act as an escape from the intense waves of feelings, the terror, and the helplessness.

• Disordered Eating / Eating Disorders

• • • Compulsive control of food intake can be a way of taking back control over the body that was denied during the abuse.

• Self-injury
  • • Many survivors burn or cut themselves in order to relieve intense anxiety triggered by memories of the abuse.

Treatment

In most instances, the survivor never discussed the abuse with others while it was occurring. In fact, many survivors do not remember the abuse until years after it has occurred, and may never be able to clearly recall it. Usually, after being triggered by a memory, this individual learns how, as an adult, to deal with the effects of the abuse.

It is important to speak with someone, a friend or counselor, about the abuse as well as past and current feelings.

Community health centers, mental health clinics, and family service centers may have counselors who have worked with survivors before. They may also be able to refer you to a self-help group, or you can contact Jewish Community Watch and we will do all we can to help you.

If you are an adult dealing with the effects of childhood sexual abuse, please remember that you are not responsible for the abuse and that you are not alone. You can overcome the effects that the abuse has on your life.

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